A breakthrough is a change in behavior that results in more vitality and energy. What do you think? That explanation came to me this morning and it sounds and feels right.
This summer I spent a bunch of time with family and saw some of my best old friends. I hiked, and swam and walked on the beach too, which was amazing. I also made some shifts in behavior.
I'd been holding on to lot of resentment. Old shit. Very old. And with old shit, it can be hard to see it, it feels like it becomes a part of us, part of our identity/personality. Family (for me) is the biggest trigger and also the place of the biggest opportunity for growth. A change in behavior with family has ripple effects because if we can do it there, then we/i can do it anywhere.
As someone who has, at times, checked out of my own feelings to take care of others, NOT doing that feels awfully scary. Not doing that with family is almost to the point of terrifying, BUT doing it is liberation! Ironically me not taking care of others doesn't seem to be that big deal for them, and I'm finding that it's actually strengthening my relationships.
I found that my attitude with my family wasn't as snotty and antagonistic as it had been, once I realized that I could actually take care of myself, say yes, or no nicely and mean it, and know that it didn't equal disaster or being shamed.
Now I am doing it all over the place! It's quite incredible really! Cheers to breakthroughs!
This summer I spent a bunch of time with family and saw some of my best old friends. I hiked, and swam and walked on the beach too, which was amazing. I also made some shifts in behavior.
I'd been holding on to lot of resentment. Old shit. Very old. And with old shit, it can be hard to see it, it feels like it becomes a part of us, part of our identity/personality. Family (for me) is the biggest trigger and also the place of the biggest opportunity for growth. A change in behavior with family has ripple effects because if we can do it there, then we/i can do it anywhere.
As someone who has, at times, checked out of my own feelings to take care of others, NOT doing that feels awfully scary. Not doing that with family is almost to the point of terrifying, BUT doing it is liberation! Ironically me not taking care of others doesn't seem to be that big deal for them, and I'm finding that it's actually strengthening my relationships.
I found that my attitude with my family wasn't as snotty and antagonistic as it had been, once I realized that I could actually take care of myself, say yes, or no nicely and mean it, and know that it didn't equal disaster or being shamed.
Now I am doing it all over the place! It's quite incredible really! Cheers to breakthroughs!
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